There are, essentially, 3 types of “red-flags” embedded within the Red-Flag Crisis.
The Red Flag Carry In
The Red Flag Carry Over
The Red Flag Tap In
Regardless of which red flag you encounter, the main point is to provide for the youth and understanding that someone (e.g. their parent, their teacher) understands their real problems. But first, how do we get the youth to understand that they are displacing their feelings onto someone else?
With a “Red-Flag” we have the students perception:
“Everyone is against me! No one understands what’s going on with me and no one cares! I can’t take it anymore!”
And then we have the process by which the teacher is supposed to approach the situation:
Recognize that the student’s behavior is different today De-escalate self-defeating behaviors and determine the source of the intense feelings and behaviors. And most importantly, make sure the adult is in control of his or her personal counter-aggressive feelings toward the student while working through the multiple layers of resistance.
And the process is fairly simple as defined by the LSCI Institute. First we have the 3 Diagnostic Stages:
First, allow the student to drain-off their feelings while the adult remains in control of their own counter-aggressive feelings. Second, establish a reverse timeline of the events that led to the outburst. Third, establish the central issue that is causing the youth to have the out burst.
And then we have 3 Reclaiming Stages:
First, establish insight into the students specific self-defeating behaviors. Second, apply new skills that will help the student develop new social skills that will allow him or her to overcome self-defeating behaviors. Third, application of the new skills. What they call the transfer of training so the student may generalize and strengthen their new tools/social skills in the classroom or home setting.
This is a fairly succinct way of explaining what a “Red-Flag” is. But how to we get at the central issue?
I’ve always appreciated the method given by Therapeutic Crisis Intervention (TCI) in obtaining the central issue.
First off, TCI is,
“a crisis management protocol developed by Cornell University for residential child care facilities.”
The method that I’ve always used was what they call an IESCAPE. An acronym, obviously, that stands for…
Now, this is an incredibly effective means to establish new tools for a troubled child in a “Red-Flag” situation. It is essential to follow these steps, with personal adjustments of course, to get the youth to understand their displacement of feelings onto other people. And to teach them new tools to no displacing this anger.
(Ah-ha! Feeling displacement. Now, where have I heard of such an approach to feeling dis-displacement before? Coming up next…
How I learned to love Byron Katie…)